Why the wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger

In honor of my last post, I wanted to re-blog something I saw on someone's FB. 

Why the wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger:
The Chinese give a beautiful explanation to this.

• The thumb represents your parents.
• The index finger represents your siblings.
• The middle finger represents yourself.
• The ring finger represents your life partner.
• The little finger/pinky represents your children.

Hold your hands together like the picture. Join your middle fingers back-to-back, and the remaining fingers tip-to-tip.
Now, try to separate your thumbs. They will separate because your parents are not destined to live with you forever. Rejoin your thumbs and separate your index fingers. They will separate because your siblings will have their own families and lead their own lives. Rejoin your index fingers and separate your little fingers/pinkies. They will separate because your children will grow up, get married, and settle down. Rejoin your little fingers/pinkies and try to separate your ring finger. They will not be able to separate because your life partner is meant to be with you throughout your entire life, through thick and thin.

 (via Mike Vo)

Marriage, Engagements and Babies - Oh My!

'Tis the season to be married, fa la la la la la la la UGH!!!


My intention has been to write this posting for some time but life happens and honestly I don't much like tinkering with my computer after work. Fast forward a couple of months and insert a FULL weekend at home (I'm talking Thurs to Sun baby!) and here we are...

Before I delve into this, I'd like to note I am not bitter, just hyper aware.

Is it just me or is everyone married, getting married or in possession of a child they took some part in creating. Maybe I missed the memo here. When did we all start coupling up and engaging in procreation. I look around and it seems like more and more people are entering cuffing seasons of permanent proportions. I'm all for marriage, I even look forward to it someday BUT it feels like I'm watching a tidalwave of it going down. The time of the year sorta dictates what I'm seeing: colder months mean proposals and heat brings the weddings.

I am totally happy for couples who have been through the fire and been in deep committed relationship for longer than 7 minutes (or a year or two whatev lol) and then, after seeking counsel and committing themselves to prayer decide to get hitched. However, I would be lying if I said I didn't in some sense side eye people who appear to rush into marriage. This is arguably the biggest decision one will ever make and to commit a person in less time than your Fantasy (whatever) League takes to finish is a problem. Yes, you have the rest of your life to get to know each other but time allows for things to surface that may make you reconsider enmeshing your life with that person. And lets not talk about adding a small person to the mix...that in itself is a lil bundle of (insert word choice here).

Personally, I'm down with a 3-5 year relationship plan but who knows what will actually go down. I'm currently alternating between wondering why the hell everyone is getting hitched and (not so) secretly wondering when my day will come. God is in control but I sort of wish this wasn't happening in mass. I suppose that's the funness of being in your 20's, a bunch of life's major decisions seemingly sucker punch you and the people you love.

Aside from my personally not being on the ring, wedded bliss and/or spawn kick, I think my greatest challenge with all this is its not my MO right now. Would a relationship be nice? Sure, with the right person. But to be honest, I'm content right now with my job that pays peanuts and allows me the freedom to chase what I love. I'm content with walking down a flight of steps and getting face time with my dad. I'm content with doing whatever, whenever because I felt like it and I don't have any real sense of responsibility in relation to another person or set of people. I'm content with being young and single.

God bless all who are entering new seasons in your lives; when I remember I will pray for you cause the new territories come with new anxieties. As for me, I will thank Sweet Baby Jesus for where I am in life right now and rest in the awesome that is my singleness.

Music I Like: Josh Lehman

I came across this singer when I was looking at some new music by Passion and CANNOT stop listening to him. The only way I can describe Josh Lehman's voice is to say that when I hear him sing it feels like swimming in warm, clear water. Here are a few songs I feel really highlight his talent:

Trust Issues (Drake cover) - Josh Lehman, Daniel De Bourg, Passion

Marvin's Room (Drake Cover) - Josh Lehman

Amazing (Tank cover) - Josh Lehman

Pregnant with Vision

Praise God for vision kicking at the walls of your spirit. Much like a child in the womb one needs to feel the vision moving to know all is well.

My Sissy is Getting Married

So I fail...kinda epically. I realized that it's been over a month since I've posted but you know what? Life happens sometimes.

I'm sitting in my office, looking at the week ahead of me and can say that my heart is so incredibly full right now. By week's end, one of my best friends in the world is going to get married to a dear, dear man. She is not the first of my friends to get married by any means but somehow this time it feels different. Earlier today I shared this with her and explained that with anyone else I would think "Awww, that's sweet", go about my business and celebrate with them on their special day. With Beks, I've found myself on the verge of tears from my heart abounding with love and happiness for her and her husband to be. I wish I had words enough to fully articulate my emotions but the best way I can put it is like this. There are times in life where God allows us to enter into deep, meaningful relationship with people. You share in the pain, stresses and trials that life has to offer but there are those beautiful times where you experience joy so unfathomable you find yourself busting at the seams with emotion and elation. This is one of those times for me.

Being an only child, I cannot say that I have siblings bore of flesh. However God, in all his infinite grace, has given me sisters bore of His spirit who have added...no, multiplied blessing after blessing in my life. I am so honored and humbled that on Saturday I will have the privilege of standing with my sister Bekuh as she enters into the covenant relationship that is reflective of God's union with his people. On that day (and the days proceeding), I will give thanks to God for bringing her to this new place in her life that is ripe with promise and possibility.