No Love, I Reserve The Right To Disagree and I Will Not Accept Your High 5

Every once and again you happen to have a day where some of your peeves decide to conference, converge and morph into an unholy Megazord of annoyance (a la Power Rangers). For me, yesterday was such a time as this.

Let me try to put this into lyrical form: 'Twas the night of my homegirl's birthday and all through the restaurant, the churchy people wouldn't stop talking about things that were inconsequential to humanity and tried putting words in my mouth.  Ok, that didn't quite rhyme but I think you get my point.

The topic of conversation was abstruse at best (something about the moral agency of celestial beings) and the parties were nice enough people. I would even say that I genuinely like and care for one of the people I was speaking with. My issue is this - I say what I mean to say and if I have not expressly stated something, it is probably not what I intended to say. I will rephrase: DO NOT PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH. I made statement X, statement "whatever the hell you just said I said" is not applicable because I didn't say it. If I meant to say what you said that I said, guess what...I WOULD HAVE SAID THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE. I use the capitalization for emphasis as this irritates the crap outta me. I understand implications can be made from statements but I try to choose my words carefully, especially in debate, because I don't like room to be made for people to infer I meant something other than what I stated.

My second issue would be this...If you are at a point in a conversation, find yourself at an impasse and the person you are conversing with shares that you should agree to disagree (especially more than once), let it go. I myself have been guilty of this in the past and I pledged to myself last night that I would seriously ward off doing this as I know how being in such a situation made me feel. I think last night would have accounted for one of those times where folks could have benefited from having a personality overview of the other parties present. At the top of my list, under the subheading Things to Avoid, the line item may have read something like "Rarely changes mind especially in debate; refrain from pushing as it will result in her not wanting to converse with you".

If you take the above noted irritants and combine them with excessive distribution of high 5s and the highly churched, you have created a mental cocktail that I will likely pass on indulging in again. I love my Jesus  people but sometimes I don't like the real churched out ones because they have a cliche or bible verse for EVERYTHING, often misapplied. I'm far from being biblically literate (I'm such a bad PK lol) but I do know enough Bible and have a store of common sense that lets me deduce that a) this conversation has no bearing on my salvation or yours and b) there are some things that exist in such complexity that finite minds should limit their investigation of them. I'm ok with knowing the limits of my humanity and get that sometimes God doesn't tell us things (like a detailed breakdown of the history of non-earthly beings) cause it doesn't really affect us. Unfortunately, not everyone is in that boat and it causes debate and frustration across the board.

So no more Megazord for me, I will keep my opinions to myself no matter how illogical I find certain lines of conversation. It is so not worth the cerebral hangover I'm experiencing right now.