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Wednesday, December 21

30 Day Challenge: Day 18 (A Problem You've Had)

I'm not the best with confrontation. I can argue the hell out of something but there are times when I'm bad with addressing a situation. Examples always help so I'll give you one.

About a month and a half ago, I started talking to Bill*. We met via a dating site I was using (I have since closed my account) and started texting and speaking on the phone after some time. Conversation was decent and we decided to go out on a date. For reasons outside of both of our control, the date we chose had to be pushed back due to an unexpected work event. In talking to Bill. I noted that he started calling me pet names and it made me super uncomfortable but I didn't know how to address it, so I didn't. Then he started to try and invite himself to my social events. The man started making inferences to marriage. And the cherry on top was him leaving me messages telling me he missed me.

For some people, this is a no brainer, just address it. For me, its hard because I will be uncomfortable for the sake of not hurting someone else. After counsel and thinking it over, I decided to write. Where I have verbal blocks at time, the written word is freedom to me. I don't intentionally offend but I can say things most clearly when I have the ability to write them out. So that's what I did - I wrote him and told him he made me uncomfortable and I would discontinue speaking with him if his behavior continued.

Guess what?

He apologized. Profusely. My confronting the issue led to some sort of resolution. This happened recently so we'll see if we can be friends, its still too soon to tell. No matter, I confronted an uncomfortable situation and I'm glad that I did.


*name obviously change to refrain from blowing ups spots

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